They Just Don’t Tell You!

So having a baby has always been on our minds. And it was so exciting talking about it, planning it out and finally getting there! Then it starts…

There are a whole lot of things people don’t tell you when you get pregnant or before!

Throwing up sucks!

If you’re lucky, the nausea will last three to four months. Put it just totally sucks! Throwing up morning, afternoon, evening and night is not such a great deal you just signed up for. There will be moments of utter depression where you wish you could turn back time and not be pregnant! And then you’ll think “What kind of a mother am I gonna be wishing I wasn’t pregnant, wishing to turn back time!” It’s all ok. Think it, let the frustration out. Talk to your husband. He needs to know what inner turmoil you are going through. Only then can he be supportive!

 Feeling like an old lady

“Hey! Let’s go out”, my friends and family would say. And me, “Oh crap! OUT! Really?” Every single day you’ll be pushing yourself. Yes the second trimester is quite an enjoyable phase but trust me. Your body will feel so heavy, your mind will tell you a hundred reasons not to go, people will have a thousand reasons for you not to travel. But just do it! Push yourself. Yes you will feel tired, you might lose a little sleep but after you’ve had fun, laughed, talked, eaten… YOU FEEL GOOD! So get out and do things. It’s the best!

An afternoon snooze is a treat!

I used to feel horrible when I had to sleep two whole hours in the afternoon! The worst is when we are out visiting people and all I can think of is my bed. Just sleep where ever you are! And I’m not kidding. Any rest post lunch is a mind saver, body ache reliever and a true treat for yourself. Don’t worry about what others think. Only you know what you’re going through. Others can speculate, say “Yeah I know how it is”, wonder what’s wrong with you. Each pregnancy is different. You know how much your body can take. Don’t push it!

Moving like an old fart

Get used to it. Everything happens in slow motion! Getting up from bed will take 15 minutes or more, trying to stand up from sitting on the floor will take well let’s say 15 minutes, climbing stairs will take a while, getting in and out of the car will be painful at times, trying to stretch to get a pen from the other side of the table will take longer than you imagine. Get used to it. And take it slow.

Ouch! My pelvic region hurts

Yes, your pelvic region will hurt like crazy! Sitting, standing, walking, turning from side to side, getting up, getting in and out of your car, climbing… Literally everything you do… It will hurt! Yes your doc may give you tablets to counter the pain. But if you are brave enough to face it, be prepared. IT HURTS!

Muscle pulls… Is it for real?

And here’s another treat for your already aching body. Cramps, muscle pulls, whatever you call it… It’s here to stay for a few more months. Take it from me… It lasts just a few minutes, but those few minutes are torture. Brace yourself! They come where ever, whenever! There’s no telling!

It’s only 9.30 in the evening and my eyes aren’t able to stay open!

Yup… The worst part is I love staying up late in the night… Yeah well that ain’t gonna happen ladies. And don’t push yourself to stay awake. If you know there’s something you want to stay up for (in my case watching the FIFA WC matches) sleep early. Don’t give up on sleep. It just makes you cranky and tired and more susceptible to the most horrible thoughts in your head.

Is that baby growing inside me a football player?

Initially when the baby starts kicking it is such a joy! But as the baby grows stronger…Your baby’s going to kick, press, push, punch and I honestly don’t know what else! You are going to lose sleep, get tired faster, feel pain, feel pressure, feel uncomfortable, get distracted easily and lots more. It sure is beautiful to feel your baby moving around but it comes with a price.

I feel like a balloon!

There will be times when you feel like your tummy is a balloon blown to a point where it’s gonna pop! It’s normal. You just have to find a way to let the air out (if you know what I mean!)

My tummy itches

No matter how much rubbing you do, for many people the tummy itches and I’m talking about crazy itching! Ask your doc for any specific cream. Use it!

I’m not saying pregnancy is troublesome. I’m just saying be ready. Your body is going through the most deadly rollercoaster ride in the world. It’s a beautiful experience but with a tag along. It’ll be easier if we are able to accept these things as it comes and move ahead. The moment we start wondering “Oh why and Oh no” it’s just going to get worse. Be prepared to face even more difficult situations. All the above are based on what I’ve gone through. Even after going through all this, I can say I’m enjoying my pregnancy! Shortly I will be stepping into my third trimester. Everybody has told me that it’s going to be the worst of the three trimesters! But I know that I’m going to be bringing a treasure into this world. It’ll all be worth it in the end.